Well, it was hard cause our community here is the one who takes outsider advice and view rather than discussion on their own. Maa, my mom is like that too.
Traditional people seems to do that. I felt that it is not necessary to be bothered by the outsider much. They are not the ones who help us when we are in trouble. What they do is criticize. I'm sorry but that is what I think about the community around me.
That's why I always told my mom that our religion didn't teach us to follow the Adat but instead it should be the Adap. The thing with our community that they too absorbed with the Adat that they forgot the Adap. That's destroying our community nowadays. *kinda out of topic ne?*
I am kinda rebellious in such aspect. If anything bothers me I would get cranky and sometimes shut my self in. Sometimes that is the only way that they would see why is this important but in other some way, talk to them and discuss with them this matter if they are the kind that listens as I know that my family rarely does that *so actions is better to me*.
Sometimes when it is just couldn't be solved even with both actions and talks, I seeks for God first and always rant to him. He is the only one who sees and believed me in anything. It felt good but other times when I need to just let it go, I just do something crazy. That is where everything just flew away out of me.
Just only whenever you felt frustrated or sad or anything keeps bothering you, just rant it all out. Talk. Share with someone or something. Do your own thing. Have your own private moment. I know you can write as I love reading your fanfics. Do that if you can. Tell them through there. The negative feelings just need to let out. Don't keep it inside. It will consume and kills you and also after you had let it all out, at the end you would think it wasn't bad at all.
I'm sorry this advice won't do any help to you but I hope you would find a way through. No worries. I am here to listen to you whenever you needed me to but I wouldn't help much cuz I am bad in giving advice. ^_^ Gambatte!!!
P.s: Oh, yeah!! and one more thing, I sometimes 'Biaq pi la dia' when I felt like it. Just wait and see. Go with the flow. Maa, it might seem irresponsible but if I couldn't do anything so I just might let it be. They asked for it. Kekekeke..
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Re: Hi..
10/5/14 13:22 (UTC)Traditional people seems to do that. I felt that it is not necessary to be bothered by the outsider much. They are not the ones who help us when we are in trouble. What they do is criticize. I'm sorry but that is what I think about the community around me.
That's why I always told my mom that our religion didn't teach us to follow the Adat but instead it should be the Adap. The thing with our community that they too absorbed with the Adat that they forgot the Adap. That's destroying our community nowadays. *kinda out of topic ne?*
I am kinda rebellious in such aspect. If anything bothers me I would get cranky and sometimes shut my self in. Sometimes that is the only way that they would see why is this important but in other some way, talk to them and discuss with them this matter if they are the kind that listens as I know that my family rarely does that *so actions is better to me*.
Sometimes when it is just couldn't be solved even with both actions and talks, I seeks for God first and always rant to him. He is the only one who sees and believed me in anything. It felt good but other times when I need to just let it go, I just do something crazy. That is where everything just flew away out of me.
Just only whenever you felt frustrated or sad or anything keeps bothering you, just rant it all out. Talk. Share with someone or something. Do your own thing. Have your own private moment. I know you can write as I love reading your fanfics. Do that if you can. Tell them through there. The negative feelings just need to let out. Don't keep it inside. It will consume and kills you and also after you had let it all out, at the end you would think it wasn't bad at all.
I'm sorry this advice won't do any help to you but I hope you would find a way through. No worries. I am here to listen to you whenever you needed me to but I wouldn't help much cuz I am bad in giving advice. ^_^ Gambatte!!!
P.s: Oh, yeah!! and one more thing, I sometimes 'Biaq pi la dia' when I felt like it. Just wait and see. Go with the flow. Maa, it might seem irresponsible but if I couldn't do anything so I just might let it be. They asked for it. Kekekeke..